| Tips for Fostering Self Esteem |
* acknowledge positive qualities
* be non-judgmental, and accept students as they are
* demonstrate appropriate ways of releasing anger
* develop skills to help a child feel better about himself/herself
* emphasize what each child knows
* encourage positively; say, "You can succeed"
* give children choices
* inform parents/guardians about student growth
* keep boundaries that allow give and take
* listen reflectively and genuinely give support for growth and change
* participate, facilitate, and share feelings
* provide a safe classroom - minimum risk fosters openness and honesty
* provide acceptance
* teach self-awareness
* provide undivided recognition
* reaffirm a child's existence with a compliment or an acknowledgment
* respect others' feelings
* see uniqueness
* separate the action from the person
* structure opportunities for success
* use humor, but not at the expense of students
* use "I messages" such as "Heather, I hear exciting events in your story"
* validate feelings
| Encouraging Students |
Not all students react to praise the same way.
Your objective in using praise is to get students to develop an internal locus of control to improve behaviour and academic achievement. Here are some suggested uses of praise:
* At times, give praise privately to avoid competition, embarrassment, or "teacher's pet" syndrome.
* Be careful not to compare one student with another: "Gee, you have almost caught up to Karen."
* Don't minimize a student's success: "Your math assignment must have been easy, you finished so quickly."
* Draw the student's attention to his/her effort and ability: "You sure learned those ten addition facts quickly. You must have spent a lot of time practicing."
* Give praise for desired behaviour, and define the behaviour: "Thank you for picking up the paper. You really helped the class save time."
* Praise needs to be genuine and matched by your body language.
* Vary your praise, and be creative. Don't simply say: "great," "fine," "wonderful." Be specific with praise.